Wool Goddess

After my bowel surgery, finding comfortable clothing became a real struggle. I had already dealt with adenomyosis, endometriosis, fibroids, IBS, and the postpartum periods from five pregnancies, so I thought I had mastered dressing for a bloated belly. But post-surgery, things felt completely different; both mentally and physically.

At first, I resisted this change. It took me a long time to accept it, and in hindsight, I realise that unprocessed trauma was delaying that acceptance. I constantly felt bloated, swollen, and tender, and even the slightest pressure from clothing felt unbearable.

One family gathering really highlighted this struggle for me. I ended up in tears because I couldn’t find anything to wear that made me feel good about myself. My body shape had changed, and I despised it. As I tried on dresses, I cried, realising that I needed to confront everything I had been through if I wanted to be comfortable in my own skin again.

Now, I won’t pretend that this journey was quick or easy. In fact, it was made worse by the fact that, during this time, my fiancé ended our relationship and ghosted me. The rejection made the process of self-acceptance even harder. That was a brutal chapter of my life, but summarising it here in a single paragraph makes me feel like I’ve earned a gold star!

The first major step towards acceptance?

A complete wardrobe overhaul.

Anything that wasn’t comfortable was donated to charity or sold on eBay. I had to be absolutely ruthless. Every piece of clothing; footwear, underwear, nightwear came under scrutiny for comfort.

And no, I wasn’t in a position to toss clothes out and then go on a massive shopping spree the next day. I had to be practical, so my goal was to build a small capsule wardrobe that I could layer for the colder seasons.

This process was about more than just clothes. It was about reclaiming my comfort and finding a way to feel good in my body again.

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Hope your day is magical and you notice the small precious moments.

Love & healing hugs