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For far too long, pleasure, especially female pleasure, has been treated as optional, indulgent, or even something to be embarrassed about. From a holistic perspective, that idea simply doesn’t hold up.

I’m a qualified Holistic Therapist (no longer practising due to health limitations), a massive advocate for crochet as a therapeutic practice, and a menopausal woman proudly loving her single life. And yes, I still have needs, just like every other human being.

Because pleasure isn’t frivolous. It’s fundamental.

Maslow Had a Point… Even If He was a Man Born Over 100 Years Ago…

Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs places human motivation into five layers:

• Physiological needs (food, water, rest)
• Safety (health, security, stability)
• Love & belonging (connection, intimacy, affection)
• Esteem (confidence, self-worth, respect)
• Self-actualisation (growth, fulfilment, becoming who we truly are)

Written by a man born over a century ago (and let’s be honest, an advanced fella for his time), Maslow recognised that humans seek fulfilment and transformation through personal growth.

What’s often glossed over is that sexual pleasure sits across several of these levels: physiological release, emotional bonding, confidence building, and ultimately self-actualisation. Pleasure helps us feel alive, connected, regulated, and whole.

Pleasure as Medicine: What Modern Science Confirms

Today’s psychologists, neuroscientists, and sexual health experts strongly support what many of us feel instinctively: sexual pleasure is good for us.

Here in the UK, experts such as Dr Debbie Lovell, Miranda Christophers, Dr Ben Davis, Sara Nasserzadeh, and Susan Quilliam are doing brilliant work in sex therapy, relationship psychology, and sexual wellbeing, evidence that pleasure, confidence, and intimacy are valid components of holistic health.

The message is clear: pleasure supports mental, emotional, and physical health.

The Neurochemistry of Orgasm (AKA: Your Body Doing Its Thing)

Orgasm triggers a powerful blend of feel-good chemicals:

• Dopamine (motivation, pleasure, reward)
• Oxytocin (bonding, calm, emotional safety)
• Endorphins & endocannabinoids (natural pain relief and euphoria)
• Serotonin & prolactin (mood regulation, relaxation, better sleep)

This isn’t indulgence…. It’s a regulation.

Holistic Benefits That Go Far Beyond the Bedroom

From a whole-body perspective, orgasm can support:

• Stress & anxiety reduction by lowering cortisol and adrenaline
• Improved sleep, thanks to post-orgasm relaxation hormones
• Enhanced self-esteem and body confidence through positive self-connection
• Emotional regulation, especially during menopause
• Relationship intimacy or deeper self-intimacy when single

And just like crochet, breathwork, meditation, or gentle movement, pleasure is another form of nervous system care.

Menopause, Single Life & Owning Our Needs

Many women, myself included, are choosing to remain single, and that doesn’t mean switching off desire. I’ve never believed in gatekeeping pleasure, especially when it supports wellbeing.

Talking about sex, walking into lingerie shops, or browsing that aisle has always felt as normal to me as buying toilet paper. We don’t announce it to the world, but it’s still a very natural part of being human.

I also understand that not everyone feels as comfortable. Concerns about discreet packaging, noise levels, or living with adult children are very real. Thankfully, reputable online retailers understand this, and packaging is always discreet.

PR/Gifted Product Disclosure:

This item was kindly gifted to me for review purposes. I haven’t been paid to feature it, and all thoughts, opinions, and experiences shared are completely my own. I only recommend products I genuinely use and believe may be helpful for you

A Word on Modern Pleasure Technology

Let’s be honest, technology has come a long way.

Old-school, one-shape-fits-all toys absolutely had their place, but they often didn’t quite… hit the spot. That’s where modern, body-aware designs come into their own, encouraging exploration rather than repetition.

The We-Vibe Rave 2 G-spot vibrator is a brilliant example of this evolution.

Designed with an asymmetrical shape, adjustable hinge, and dual motors, it offers targeted internal stimulation with 10 vibration modes, all wrapped in velvety-soft silicone that feels incredible on the skin. It’s thoughtful, adaptable, and designed to work with your body rather than against it.

The quieter motor, improved angle, rechargeable design, and waterproof build make it practical as well as pleasurable, whether you’re looking for quick relaxation before sleep or longer moments of exploration.

Yes, it’s app-enabled. Yes, it’s brilliant for couples.

And yes….I happily sail this ship solo.

My Honest Verdict

It’s worth every penny.

The noise levels are significantly quieter than older designs, the shape makes achieving results far easier, and the rechargeable battery (two-hour charge time!!!) feels refreshingly modern. Just remember you’ll need a USB plug adapter, a small but important tip.

It’s also waterproof, beautifully designed, and offers dual stimulation that feels intuitive rather than mechanical. Over time, like any form of self-care, you learn what works best for you, and I am sure I will have hours of exploration ahead.

…and no, I am not going into detail, but you won’t fail to be a happy lady with this toy! It is effortless to get results.

Pleasure Is Self-Care

The World Health Organisation now recognises sexual wellbeing as a key part of overall health, not just the absence of disease, but the presence of pleasure, safety, and autonomy.

Whether through crochet, breath, rest, laughter, or orgasm, self-connection matters.

Pleasure isn’t shameful.

It isn’t selfish.

And it certainly isn’t optional.

It’s part of being human.

As always huge hug