Let’s talk about something we were never really taught to talk about; let alone celebrate.
For generations, female pleasure has been shrouded in silence, shame, and taboo. Even today, in a supposedly liberated society, there’s a subtle cultural undercurrent that suggests women exploring their own bodies is somehow inappropriate, indulgent, or unnecessary.
But here’s the truth: self-exploration is not only natural, it’s profoundly healthy. And it’s time we started speaking about it like we do any other part of self-care or personal development.
The Body Is Not Just for Others
So often, women are socialised to think of their bodies in terms of how they serve others, how attractive we are, how nurturing, how available, how “pleasing.” Rarely are we encouraged to think of our bodies as something to be known, celebrated, and enjoyed just for us.
Self-pleasure, or masturbation if we’re naming it directly, is not something shameful. It’s a practice of self-connection. It helps you understand what brings you pleasure, what feels good, and what doesn’t, and that kind of awareness can ripple out into every area of your life, from confidence to communication to intimacy.
The Science Is on Your Side
Let’s bust the myth right now: self-pleasure isn’t dirty or damaging. In fact, medical and psychological research supports it as part of a healthy lifestyle.
- Reduces stress and improves sleep by releasing dopamine and oxytocin
- Boosts self-esteem by reconnecting you with your body in a non-judgmental, empowering way
- Relieves menstrual cramps and pelvic tension
- Supports pelvic floor health and increases blood flow
- Can even improve intimacy with partners, as you become more aware of your preferences and boundaries
This isn’t a “naughty” secret, it’s basic wellbeing.
Breaking the Taboo
Why does this still feel like such a difficult topic for many women? Because we’ve inherited generations of silence. Female pleasure has often been filtered through male centric narratives, religious guilt, and cultural expectations. We’ve been taught to disconnect from our bodies, to be modest, to not ask for too much.
But here’s a thought: what if pleasure isn’t selfish, it’s sacred?
Your body is yours. Your pleasure is yours. And nobody, not a partner, not a parent, not anyone gets to tell you how or when you explore that.
Pleasure as a Form of Self-Respect
When we give ourselves permission to explore our own bodies, we reclaim the narrative. We say: I am not here to be ashamed. I am here to know myself. And that kind of self-knowing leads to better boundaries, deeper self-trust, and more fulfilling connections, romantic or otherwise.
Start Where You Are
Remember my blog about each day embracing the Goddess?
“Every morning, she would stand naked in front of a mirror and place an invisible crown upon her head. Though the crown was not physically there, the act of doing this was immensely powerful. This ritual symbolised her acknowledgment of her own worth and her right to self-respect and admiration.”
Wool Goddess
Self exploration doesn’t need to be a grand awakening. It can be as simple as taking five minutes to reconnect with your body, without judgement, without expectation. Simply massaging body cream into your skin when you get out the shower. Whether that’s sensual touch, breathing into your hips, or exploring what feels good in a safe and private space, it’s yours to define.
And if you’re someone who’s never explored before, or if the idea makes you feel nervous, know this: you’re not alone. You’re not broken. And you’re allowed to move at your own pace. Curiosity is a powerful place to begin.
Lastly
Self-pleasure isn’t a betrayal of your values, your femininity, or your relationships. It’s a return to yourself. A reminder that your body is not just functional or decorative, it’s a source of joy, comfort, and connection.
So let’s drop the shame. Let’s talk about it. Let’s normalise it.
Because pleasure isn’t taboo. It’s a birth right.
No matter what your age, it is never too late to find happiness and pleasure from your own body.
Love & healing hugs
Wool Goddess 
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